Jemma I have a lot of respect for you and people like you. Sadly in this society people who are 'traditional' have very inflexible ways of viewing the world and unfortunately anything other than a masculine man and a feminine woman is frowned upon and often derided. In High School I weighed 140 pounds and had very long straight hair. I was picked on a lot and called a woman, I didn't let it bother me, but I was never physically attacked.
I am proud to see that the same folks who offered prayers to you, did not turn their backs on you when they found out your condition. I expected more judgement than that and I must say I am surprised. Most people I know who are traditional (my fathers age) would either make some off color joke or harsh judgement. Still, you seem like a tough person who perseveres through much adversity and doesn't let the ignorance of others bother you.
Anyway, good luck building your new machine and know that we all wish you the best!